Observance of Ms. Obnoxious in Restaurant B

Every now and then I go to this fast food restaurant where.  Here, there is this one lady that sits at the corner of the restaurant.  She appears to be this needy, mid 50 lady, that talks to the workers like she owns the shop.  She speaks with a disrespecting connotation and very loud without regard to other customer in the room.  After 10 minutes an older man walks in to the restaurant who she apparantly knows.  The first thing she says after she greets hims, " Your but is portruding."    This obnoxious individual appears to be so uncultured, lacking in manners.  She went up to the restaurant counter demanding for condiments at least 10 times within the first 30 minutes. I noticed her in the very beginning when I first came to this restaurant. After several weeks of coming to this restaurant, I noticed that the men that she knows denies her company everytime she invites.  Today, it happened again. But then, who wants to talk to a person that is nonsense, and speaks nonsense to people she know. 

I started to feel sorry, because after sitting for an hour, everyone she supposedly knows including the working crew beagan to ignore her. It must be lonely, desperately showing a crave for attention, and continious rejection after day. Coming to this restaurant is her everyday routine in hope of getting attention. She probably does not know what is happening to her, or made any effort pulling herself out of the box-so to speak to at least consider her entire being.  But at that age, self constructive criticism is just about unacceptable on the concept that if you are older, you should be wiser ( emphasis disagreed).  I am still sitting here at the restaurant and it is on the 2nd hour.  She makes a phonecall to call her maid.  The moment she gets in touch with her, she spends the next 5minutes, scolding the person on the otherline and instructing her on how to answer her phone due to the numerous missed calls without consideration of what the other person could have been doing.  She does not ask herself, " maybe that person got into an accident".  Sadly, she sits alone in the same corner day in and day out.  She will probably leave several more hours after me.  Where will she go?

When people say, "what comes arounnd, goes around;" perhaps this is applicable in her case. After all who want to answer calls from the obnoxious woman who sits in the corner. I am now ending this article, and there she is still sitting alone.

How to be a BETTER PERSON

If you have not done the list of the following in your life, perhaps you should take note.  Here is a list on how to be a better person:

1.  Always say please when needing something without making another person feeling as if you  demand.
2. Always say thank you when you are granted a request.
3. If your time is important to you, always consider the time of others.The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - New Products for Classification. (Google Affiliate Ad)
4. Before asking for anything, consider the other persons position first.
5.   Be aware of those who use others to get what they want, because if you are granting every request without leaving room for you to breath, you will be SOL.
6. Understand that not everyone is considerate, so try to not invest in those people.
7. .       When you give, give whole heartedly without asking for anything back or you will be successful at self destructing friendships.
8. Don’t be an irritating nagger to get what you want.  Reserve your emotions when they are negative, because you may be the inconsiderate.
9. Always remember that what you do in this lifetime has to do with the fact what how you go about things is in the approach.
10. Don’t be manipulative; it is a sign of failure.The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - New Products for Classification. (Google Affiliate Ad)

Albert Einstein's Live Your Life to the Fullest

It is true, living your life the fullest does not mean that you blow all your cash as a one day pretentious millionaire.  It means to do everything possibly positive with your fullest potential for yourself and others in a good way, making the best out of the worst situations, working with what you have to work with.

I trained former workers at my business, worked with them for a year.  When the business got busy, they made a lot of cash.  The one thing I always use to say is that, " You are absolutely that best at what you do at this point... but you will never get to a better quality of life, if you dont respect such a gift. You will not make it better or achieve beyond that if you attitude says otherwise."  No one listened, they stoled, they really blew lots of their cash.  What these girls made in that year, they never made it in their lives. Some did small investments in live stock, one acted like she worked abroad, one came to work only after she ran out of cash...How sad.  They seemed like they were living the life, splurging till kingdom come.  But in the end they accomplished nothing but, hopefully at least a lesson.  That everything in life is temporary, it is how you do something at that moment that really tuly matters.

Sometimes I feel as if I am this old soul.  That I have been in this universe for sometime.  That I see right through these types of people. I feel nothing but pity because it will take them a long time, maybe forever, just wondering where life wen at the end of their time.

Live your life to the fullest.

Journey of a Wanna Be

What appears to be most disgusting is people who come from 3^rd world countries and travel abroad for work or because they were fortunate  enough to be petitioned somehow in order to achieve a better life; work in the US, Canada, or Europe and come home pretending like they are rich.  Yes, it’s disgusting.  The little fortune that they saved, is spent on feeding the low lives extended family because all of a sudden; they are boasting that they came from abroad.  Yes, disgusting! Not only that, unless they went abroad to work in a specific profession, they end up working the minimum wage.  But what is disgusting, is they come home in their country of origin acting like they are royalty.  How pretentious is that! But what is really happening here?  To me it’s being ashamed of where they came from and who they really are.  So these people clothes themselves with this expensive disguise, which could be fake jewelry by the way, or a financed car etc… used for showing off like anyone else cares.  Then they give presents to their neighbors hoping to get a favorable liking or popular vote as if they are running for office.  

 The sad part is…when these people run out of money and can no longer provide for their extended families…guess what? They are isolated.  So point in mind, what is the point of it all.  You went abroad, come back to show off, run out of money… did it change who you are?  Absolutely not!  One thing that is important in this life is that everyone should be afraid and consider always, what you might become as a person, as an individual when you have some money or some power.  The materialistic individual, if not matured enough to see that life isn’t always going to be the give me give me this or that , will soon grow old and crumble with nothing.  This is the same with the person that went abroad for minimum wage, mortgages a bought property only to come back and splurges just so he can show off will soon grow old and be left with nothing.  When grown old, these type of people will look back and say what did I do with my life? Is that all? Disgustingly sad. 

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Inconsiderate People

Why do we run into to people who are inconsiderate.  Just the manner of speaking in a low voice in a public internet cafe seems so difficult.  Lack of consideration? Yes. Lack of upbringing? Yes.  Lack of parenting? Absolutely.  How do we correct this? Is it hopeless.? Even if you addressed the issue, these inconsiderates get offended.  Is there a better way of saying things, and even if you do, the entire populations seems that way. For those who find themselves in this situation.  You'll just have deal with it for the time being.  This does not in any way mean be inconsiderate too. It just means not everyone is like the considerate people.
According to LIFESCRIPT, inconsiderate behavior can drain our spirits and leave us feeling irritable and cranky. It can wound our image of basic human nature and convert us to negative individuals. It can even make us behave rudely in response to inconsiderate behavior. This is in fact true for the most part.  Always remember that inconsideration comes with ignorance or lack or awareness. Sometimes, people don't even know they are doing it.

Chlidrens Habits From Infancy

One of  the habits that I have come to appreciate is the thumb-sucking that babies do from the moment they are born.  It is a soothing for babies and keeps them calm.  This is no different than a child who cannot get rid of a baby blanket, or refuse to get it washed because of its smell.

According to Wikepdia:
"Thumb sucking is a behavior found in humans, chimpanzees, captive Ring-tailed Lemurs,^[1] and other primates.^[2] It usually involves placing the thumb into the mouth and rhythmically repeating sucking contact for a prolonged duration. It can also be accomplished with any piece of skin within reach (such as the big toe) and is considered to be soothing and therapeutic for the person. As a child develops the habit, it will usually develop a "favorite" finger to suck on."

The other day, I saw a 10 year old child suck his thumb while he listened to music. But this is a 10 year old.  How do we get children to stop sucking their thumbs after it has become an ingrained habit?

Well, I have come to learn that kids actually have control of their own thumbs.It is important to create a way where the child stops on his or her own such as him or her when the thumb sucking is going on.   For example, you can make kids hand you something you need, or tell them to play a game without actually telling them that your aim is to specifically distract them from the thumb sucking.  As to a child's point of view, making them notice will only appear like nagging. It is also okay to have other people like a doctor or a teacher comment on the thumb sucking to make a child aware that he is too old for thumb sucking.  The comment to the child when this is addressed must not sound negative, but rather a positive approach is preferred.

For those mothers who worry about thumb sucking, try theses methods and see if they work.  Feel free to comment on this article as to your experience with your little ones.

Catching up...just seems we never get there.

Have you ever felt like there is just no enough time in this world?  Or that there are too many tasks that your body can't handle.  Here is a simple thought.  It would be great just for a moment, to close your eyes to the rest of the world.  Sit very still and focus, closing your eyes at that point between the eyes in the middle of the forehead.  Breath slowly and deeply, be aware of the stillness in that space of your mind.  This is an open space where it is peaceful and safe.Let the jumbled thoughts pass by like little clouds. After ten minutes open your eyes, take a deep breath and notice your mind and body more relaxed...ready to take on the rest of your day.

I often practice this meditation for 10 minutes everyday.  It helps release the tension of stress and gets oxygen flowing in the body for better energy.

According to MAYO CLINIC:

"Meditation can give you a sense of calm, peace and balance that benefits both your emotional well-being and your overall health. And these benefits don't end when your meditation session ends. Meditation can help carry you more calmly through your day and can even improve certain medical conditions.
Meditation and emotional well-being
When you meditate, you clear away the information overload that builds up every day and contributes to your stress.
The emotional benefits of meditation include:

• Gaining a new perspective on stressful situations
• Building skills to manage your stress
• Increasing self-awareness
• Focusing on the present
• Reducing negative emotions"

Try it.  It was not until I found myself trying to accomplish so much in so little time that I realized how this can be helpful to ones well being.  

The Self Defeating Crab Culture Environment

Petpeeve?  Here is a a thought.  There are people in this world that are takers, and then there are those that pretend they are not takers, and then there are those that pretend to be giving, counting for their returns on their invesment, and then there ar those; the rarest of them all that truly give all that they can bare to give. The true giver, bares all critism, ...the why why why questions of the ignorant specie takers.

Some years ago, Jill and Jan donated a health center in a little town... a gesture of goodwill to the community.  The jealous cousins wanted the funds to be for them. Thus, condemning Jill for all time.  Lesson learned?  Even if blood is said to be thicker than water, the evil that is present in a crab culture environment eats itself away into a self defeating taker.

Around the same time Jill sent a box of books for a library reading center.  Lesson learned, the administrator kept half of the boxes for his children. Is giving the root of all evil? Do you have a story?

Etiquette or Lack of Consideration

It has been defined that etiquette are practices and forms prescribed by social convention or by authority.

Lack of consideration as in lack of awareness or common courtesy toward another would fall under wanting of etiquette.  Here is what I heard:

“I stood in line yesterday at a…office, and this person cuts in front of me as if it was ok.  He continued to stand in line.  I said, “excuse me, I was here before you.”  He looked at me, did not bother to say sorry, or even a comment at all. He went right behind me. It was the same with the 6 other persons I ran into that day standing in line. When I was done, I got in a taxi, and he turns off the meter, and says Ill just charge you this amount.  Then I got to thinking, he probably did that because if he turned off the meter, he would not have to disclose his route to his boss!”

That was just one office, and one taxi cab. Imagine…if by social convention, the environment is this way. How insane would that be?